It’s been a few weeks since I posted Faceboom… You Have Been Eliminated. I thought I’d report on the ‘progress’? If you can call it that. I felt it would be best addressed in a Q/A format.
Q: How did you come to the conclusion deleting Facebook was necessary?
A: I don’t like to sit idle — I usually have something in my hands that I’m working on or doing for fun. Having Facebook on my phone left it too great a temptation in the ‘slow’ moments of life. I can find something much more productive to do with the phone. Touching base with an old friend, for example.
Q: How often were you using Facebook?
A: A lot of people use apps to track their daily phone/app usage. I do not. I chose simply to remove the app cold turkey. So happy with that decision.
Q: What did it feel like?
A: There was an immediate calm, peace and even excitement when I removed the app. I didn’t go to Facebook [the website] for 3 days, and when I did, I felt a twinge of regret and left quickly.
Q: Didn’t you use Facebook to keep up with family / friends? How will you do that now?
A: Honestly, I’m bad to browse Facebook pages — as in ‘cyber-stalk’ my friends and family from a safe distance. That’s fun and all, but it’d be so much better if we were actively conversing. I’ve kept Messenger, and make it a point to say something on their walls or message them instead of just stalking them.
Q: What’s the most exciting thing about removing the app?
A: No more negativity! I feel FB has become painfully political and emotionally charged over the last year and a half. It was legitimately upsetting me. I just couldn’t handle that anymore — it was too stressful, and I’m still sad about some of what transpired as a result.
Q: Why can’t you ignore the negative side of Facebook? Why does it have to be “negative” to you?!
A: Because they do not align with my values and standards I set for myself. I was seeing a lot of hateful and angry posts [not directed at me] and it was upsetting.
Q: How can I avoid a similar emotional upset, but remain on Facebook / keep the app?
A: I would have specific scheduled times to use it and no more. Also keep a log of what upsets you and why for a brief time frame and use information gleaned from that to remove those particular things from immediate view. Keep them from interrupting your day.
Q: How do you recommend dealing with criticism of your personal beliefs / standards / values via Facebook?
A: Pocket crickets are an invaluable resource. If a response becomes necessary, remain calm, collected, and make it a well thought-out response. If all else fails, the block / delete button is just clicks away.
Q: What do I do if my friend / family member is facing criticisms / hatefulness directed at them? What if it’s on my Facebook page?
A: Stand up for them, but do so graciously. Respect their needs while letting the attacker know that doesn’t fly on your page. I’ve blocked / deleted folks who attacked my friends openly on my page before.
Q: Be honest. You just replaced that app with another, right?
A: Nope. I have other social media apps, but I haven’t added any new apps at all since removing Facebook.
Q: What does your family think of this change?
A: No idea, really.
Q: Could you talk about the relationship benefits?
A: I’ve found I have more energy to spend on my spouse / others. This is a huge deal for me as an introvert [INFJ].
Q: What about your business / blog page? How do you work with it without the app?
A: I log in via the internet. I also have things in place that allow me to share to the page via Instagram and similar apps.
Q: How did you go about cleaning up your FB?
A: I unfollowed everyone in my Friends list. I then went through my list of liked pages / groups and did something similar with some of them.
Q: Doesn’t ‘unfollow’ mean you deleted or blocked them — thereby essentially removing those relationships from your life?
A: No. Facebook has a thing called a ‘newsfeed’ which is the main home page for Facebook. What I did was remove the updates to my newsfeed. So if John Q is my friend on Facebook and I unfollow him, the only way I can see his status updates is if I go to his profile. And no, my friends cannot tell that I did this… well — I guess they know now if they’re reading this, but they’re generally quite respectful of my choices in life.
Q: Is there anything you miss about Facebook?
A: Not particularly. I enjoy it more now that my newsfeed is basically nil… Anything I find lacking there, I will change over time as I’m ready. If anything, I’ve identified the posts I miss most — I’ve a friend who posts some of the funniest things, and I miss seeing that, but it’s simple to drop by their personal page and look it over.
Q: Anything else to add?
A: Hmm… only that you’re welcome to ask questions of your own, if you wish.
Thanks for reading!